“Yes to your beautiful smile that sends a message of
warmth and friendliness to others”
-Dr. Aid al-Qarni
We always wish to be genuinely happy. We do, every day. The question is, how to be happy? There are so many shared lists on how to be happy and etc. There are small ways, and big ways. But the thing is, we do things that makes us happy, we’re missing out on setting our mind to be happy. We have to set our mind first before doing things that makes us happy.
Dr. Aid al-Qarni’s belief in his book is You Can Be The Happiest Woman in the World. What a concept. However, I myself, also believe that I can be one of the happiest person in the world. I can, if I believe.
There are different things I learned from his wonderful book. Although, it’s an Islamic book, I still believe that these lessons from his book can serve as a guideline for everybody, whatever religion you’re in, whatever kind of person you are.
Have a purpose
Have a purpose to be happy, whether it may be your religion, passion, lifestyle, or even someone. This is a huge reason for us to stay and never give up. For example, my purpose beside my religion is my lifestyle. I aspire to have a good lifestyle that will make myself proud and each day I work on it and it simply gives me happiness because I'm doing something for myself because I know I deserve it.
Have a purpose to be happy, whether it may be your religion, passion, lifestyle, or even someone. This is a huge reason for us to stay and never give up. For example, my purpose beside my religion is my lifestyle. I aspire to have a good lifestyle that will make myself proud and each day I work on it and it simply gives me happiness because I'm doing something for myself because I know I deserve it.
“Happiness is not some kind of magic;
if it were, it would be of no value.”
Set your values
First, value yourself. Know what you deserve and set standard for yourself. Be cautious of every thing you intake in your life and every thing you let go. If every thing in your life is what you believe you deserve, you will find contentment in your life which will definitely cause you great happiness and satisfaction.
Second, value everything that’s around you. Your loved ones, friends, and your stuff. Make sure you make an effort to keep them in your life for as long as you can for you to maintain that happiness. Have a date with your mom or go shopping with your dad (buy him clothes), or hang out with an old friend whom you still value.
Accept the nature of life
Happiness isn’t something we feel every day because believe it or not, life is not perfect. It never will, there will always be ups and downs. Once you accept the fact that you’re not gonna be happy every day, you will feel more at ease and have hope that though you’re under dark times, you will still be happy.
Because that’s the nature of life, you will be sad then you will be happy. Always believe that, always. Be an optimists. You will be more motivated to find happiness to get over that dark times because you know it’s going to happen, you will be happy.
Money can’t buy you happiness
Jessie J once said “Why is everybody so obsessed? Money can’t buy us happiness. Can we all slow down and enjoy right now. Guarantee we’ll be feelin’ alright.”
Cliche as it may sound, but money can’t buy us happiness. You might be thinking “Pizza makes me happy, so I will buy pizza. Then, I can buy happiness.” but dear, that’s not happiness. It gives you temporary joy, but not long term happiness.
Be generous
It's so important to share what you have to others. Making other people happy is a source of genuine happiness we've longing for. Isn't it so satisfying when you get to help other people? You get to do a good deed? If you're a Muslim, you know how beneficial sadaqa and zakat is.
And recently I discovered Ali Banat (RIP) who recently passed away believing that his cancer was gift from Allah (God), after being diagnosed with cancer he turned his life around and had a mission to leave this world with nothing by giving and sharing to the charity. He left this wonderful project called MATW Project which consists different charity activities which will give other people and you a better life.
Videos about Ali Banat:
+ Gifted with Cancer - Ali Banat
+ Ali Banat's final message after death
Donate now.
Let this be your good deed for today.
The Astron
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This sounds like such a beautiful book and you posted such a great post!
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Thank you dear. I'm so glad you felt at peace, that's the vibe I want my readers to feel.
DeleteA great reminder, especially in the last 10 days or Ramadan! Love your kind and gentle tone – it translates in the way you write. Have you read Yasmin Mogahed's Reclaim Your Heart? If you haven't, just based on your response to this book I definitely think you'd enjoy it.
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Alhamdulillah. I actually haven't, I only watch her talks. I will definitely try to find the book. Thank you dear!
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I am a Christian but I sincerely appreciate your thoughts that you expressed so well in your writing. I definitely agree that these concepts can be practised no matter what religion you are. :)
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I'm so glad to hear that, Jeanne. Happy to see humanity even in small ways.
DeleteSuch an inspiring post. i found you on twitter just now. adding this book to me book list now. you are right, happiness isn't some kind of magic. i'ts taken me many years to realise this. that actually it is about being content with what i have.
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DeleteThis is such a beautiful post and one filled with good advice and wisdom! I especially love your point about having a purpose to be happy - a true focus, something to drive you out of bed each morning :)
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Thank you, Gabrielle. That's what I meant, and I'm glad you got it.
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